Why is it that the people with the smallest minds, have the biggest mouths?!

So as I mentioned I am an admin on an Adoption Situations site. It is a site that helps hopeful people find the children to complete their families.  It is a great site, it is full of wonderful information, support, and children waiting for families. Most of the time it is an easy site to admin, just not today. Today a thread was posted about fees. Yes they are crazy high, and yes it makes people VERY frustrated and discouraged, because of that I let them rant. It was full of  "if we stand up against the  man, then they will have to make changes" I don't personally agree with that. Personally I believe it is all about supply and demand. Yes it is a SICK world you enter when you plan to adopt. It is so sad. You hear the statement "we are adopting" and you picture a nice childless couple opening their lives up to a poor family-less child that needs them. Once upon a time it was like that. Now it is selling babies to the highest bidder. Birth moms getting paid up to $10,000-$15,000 dollars in "expenses" to sign over their child to the people willing to pay it. It used to be the Expecting mom picked a family and that family adopted the baby.  Now it is the Expectant mom picks the family and the Agency or Lawyer tells the family if they pay, $30,000-$50,000 then that child can be theirs! If they can't pay then the expectant mom has to keep picking until they find the desperate enough family to take out a second mortgage to adopt. Agencies actually SUGGEST that you take out a loan to afford their fees. It is a sad sad place to be in, this adoption world we have entered. I don't believe that "standing up against the man and refusing to pay the fees" will help because there will always be someone desperate enough for a baby willing to pay them. It just is what it is. We are adopting. It is costing us over $30,000. We are paying it because we want another child and I can not have anymore. What else do you do. Anyway, that was way off topic... The thread was going ok until someone made a comment about people on state aid not being fit to raise children. Then it turned to an attack on teen parents. Don't get me wrong, I don't CONDONE teens having kids. I do not ENCOURAGE teens having kids, but it happens. I do not believe they are unfit to raise them because of their age. I don't believe that age or income make parents, good or bad. You can be 40 with an income of 500,000 a year and be a TERRIBLE parent. I also believe that you can be 16 and make $15,000 a year and be a great parent. I was a 3 time teen mom. My oldest 3 were born when I was 16, 18, and 19. My youngest when I was 21. I have been on state aid. I am now 27, about to adopt our 5th child. I am the director of a non profit group that helps teens in need. Our 9 bedroom house will be finished in August. We are not on any type of assistance. We have plenty of money to raise our 5 children. I am not a statistic. I am not just another welfare mother and my life was not over when I had my kids. Of course I do not want my kids to struggle like I did. I don't want them to limit their choices in life by becoming a teen parent. I just want to point out that being a teen parent doesn't make you unfit, neither does being poor. Sometimes bad parenting happens because of circumstance, sometimes people are just not meant to be parents, and age and money wont fix that. So after my rant on people and judging others based on age and income they started in on our same sex couples that we have, and religion. Of course, the thread was deleted but it made a few people mad. Then they had a "lets complain about the Admin rant". YAY. You can't make everyone happy.  I just wish people were not so small minded. I have met good and bad parents of every race, age, income, religion, and sexual orientation. What makes a good parent is love and sacrifice, and dedication. It takes a village, it's just too bad the village (society) we live in now is so judgmental. A helping hand goes a long way...